You Can Change Other People

The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees—Even Family—Up Their Game

By Peter Bregman

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You can’t change other people; you can only change yourself. It’s a truism.

Only it’s not true. You just have to learn how.

In You Can Change Other People, Peter Bregman, the world’s #1 executive coach, and Howie Jacobson, Ph.D., teach you the Four Steps to help the people around you make positive change―even if they’ve been stuck for years. You’ll discover exactly what to say—and what not to say—to disarm people’s defensiveness and increase their confidence to act. 

Full of sample scripts and diverse examples that make the process immediately actionable, the authors share a powerful process that until now, has been available only to the world’s top executives. 

You Can Change Other People is a must-read for executives, leaders, managers, spouses, parents — anyone who wants to increase their positive impact on the people around them. Once you master the Four Steps, your world will feel lighter. You’ll be happier. The people around you will be happier. You’ll all get more done.

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  • You Can Change Other People will help you make others more successful leaders and, more importantly, fulfilled and happy human beings.
    Juan Martin, CEO KIND Snacks and Nature’s Bakery
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    Working with Peter has marked a breakthrough point in my career and personal life. His commitment to helping others makes him a truly special human and leader. You Can Change Other People will help you make others more successful leaders and, more importantly, fulfilled and happy human beings. It is not only a choice we all have, but a personal responsibility to do our piece in creating a KINDer world! I am sure you will enjoy reading it as much as I did.

  • One doesn’t expect to get such powerful life lessons from a business book. But what a gift that we do.
    David Nevins Chief Creative Officer, CBS & Chairman And Chief Executive Officer, Showtime Networks
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    You Can Change Other People goes so much deeper than how to be a better manager of people. It’s a step by step manual on how to be a better, more effective, more empathetic, and yes, even more loving human being. One doesn’t expect to get such powerful life lessons from a business book. But what a gift that we do.

  • Equip your leaders with the Four Steps and you're a long way toward infusing equity—and excellence—throughout your organization.
    Randall Tucker, Executive Vice President and Chief Inclusion Officer at Mastercard
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    Everyone regardless of their difference wants to be valued and given the tools to succeed. To achieve that, you need leaders who are skilled at delivering tough messages that help people ‘up their game’ while leaving them feeling respected and even grateful. Equip your leaders with the Four Steps and you’re a long way toward infusing equity—and excellence—throughout your organization.

  • We accomplished a tremendous amount in a short time and Peter’s coaching at the most senior levels helped us get there. His secret recipe is in this book.
    Laurie Rosenfield, Former Chief People Officer, CBS
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    I joined CBS as Chief People Officer with a mandate to re-shape a culture that both respected employees and encouraged them to grow. We accomplished a tremendous amount in a short time and Peter’s coaching at the most senior levels helped us get there. His secret recipe is in this book.

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