Can you change other people? Quiz

When answering the question, please think of a specific person in your life you want to change.

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1. Have you tried to give them advice about what to do differently?

 
 

2. Have you tried to get them to see things the way you do?

 
 

3. Do you judge them for how they’re behaving?

 
 

4. Have you criticized them when they do the things you don’t like?

 
 

5. Have you tried to motivate them to change by pointing out the benefits they’ll get?

 
 

6. Do you get angry, frustrated, or scared when you think about how they’re behaving?

 
 

7. Have you complained to other people about the person you want to change?

 
 

8. Have your conversations with them about the issue ended in frustration, anger, or resentment?

 
 

9. Are you bewildered by how poorly they’re dealing with this issue?

 
 

10. Does this issue negatively affect your overall relationship with them?

 
 

11. Are you tempted to give up trying to change them, just to keep the peace?

 
 

12. Would you be willing to change your approach to one that is both more likely to help them change and can actually improve the relationship?

 
 

How well do you manage distraction?

1. Even though it feels like I work non-stop all day, I still don’t get the most important things done.

 
 
 
 

2. No matter what I intend to focus on at the beginning of the day, as soon as I start working (checking email, etc.), I seem to get derailed and lose my focus.

 
 
 
 

3. When I have something important and challenging I want to accomplish, I spend my time doing lots of little things and avoiding the big one.

 
 
 
 

4. When my work gets challenging, I somehow keep interrupting myself by surfing the web, doing email, and other distractions.

 
 
 
 

5. When I’m on a conference call, I get bored and start multi-tasking until I miss something important and try to recover without making it obvious that I wasn’t paying attention.

 
 
 
 

6. I’m late for meetings and appointments because I try to get one more thing done instead of leaving enough time for preparation and/or travel.

 
 
 
 

7. I feel overwhelmed and stressed out by the number of things I have to do.

 
 
 
 

8. My work day ends in frustration as I think about all the things I intended to accomplish but didn’t.

 
 
 
 

9. When I try to make space for my own work, I get interrupted by others and I find it hard to protect my time.

 
 
 
 

10. I don’t spend enough time at work in my “sweet spot” (doing work I’m really good at and enjoy the most).

 
 
 
 

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