The following dialogues are written to help you put the Four Steps into practice. To protect privacy, they are composite situations, with invented names and details mashed together and changed. 

I’ve tried to make them as realistic as possible, so that you can get a sense of the challenges you’re likely to face, as well as ways to adapt the process to fit your circumstances. Remember, the outcome you want is to help someone change, not to get an A+ in Four Steps implementation!